Two Words Your Grandchildren May Need from You
Tuesday, March 11th, 2008This article, originally written in September 2005, is republished with minor editing.
“If I had known grandchildren were so great, I would have had them first,” goes the bumper sticker. Grandparents think their grandchildren are grand and grandchildren think their grandparents are grand. At least, that’s the way it should be.
But how would you like for your grandchildren to think a little less of you? Only because of two words you omitted? Would you want some of your grandchildren to end up with more of your assets after your death than the others? There could be reasons you would want that; but assuming that’s not the case, how could a careless error cause this?
I recently helped a grandmother who was vulnerable to this happening. Her primary beneficiaries were her children. On her insurance contract, if one of her children had died before her, when she died, the surviving children would receive the deceased child’s portion in equal shares. If, for example, a common accident had resulted in this situation, two of her grandchildren (the children of her predeceased child) would have received none of the insurance proceeds. All would have gone to her other children.
This is not what she wanted. The insurance company default was “per capita” instead of “per stirpes”. Her Last Will and Testament would have had no power over it. Insurance contracts, 401(k)s, and IRAs typically transfer directly to designated beneficiaries—not through probate.
The Latin phrase “per stirpes”, meaning “by branch” were the instructions the insurance company needed to correct the problem. Have you checked your will or trust lately? Have you checked your primary and contingent beneficiaries on your retirement plans and insurance policies? Don’t tarnish a good legacy with confusion and disappointment. Leave a legacy of thoughtfulness regarding the distribution of your assets to your heirs.